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Examine Your Hedman


Aug 12, 2021

Your hosts, Tara Hedman and Diane Thompson, welcome you to another episode of Examine Your Hedman. They are accompanied today by Kevin Uzri, LPC (Licensed Professional Counselor), who specializes in sex and love addiction, he owns his own practice, Sojourn Counseling Center in Monument, CO as well as a software development company for Neurofeedback, he is a husband and a dad, and overall a good human being.

 

In this second episode, Kevin talks more about his story and past trauma. He dives deep into the difference between guilt and shame, how the recovery journey begins and what healing really looks like. Kevin talks about his healing journey, how it transformed his perspective on who he really is, and the change from seeing himself like a monster to someone who can learn and love. He continues to learn his true value and realize that his addiction revealed a deeper gift.

 

Life really can suck less, so examine your head, man!

 

Key Takeaways:

[1:31] After 18 years of recovery, Kevin shares what it is like for him to meet someone who is at the front end of exposure and disclosure.

[3:22] Being a counselor is not being the expert but being with the person.

[4:15] Kevin and Tara talk about dyslexia.

[6:22] What was most helpful for Kevin when he started seeking help?

[7:34] Kevin talks about what was not helpful in his healing journey.

[9:17] The beginning of recovery often comes from being forced, however, you have to figure out why you want to be clean. What is it you want?.

[12:10] Tara shares a part of the book Eating in the Light of the Moon.

[17:56] Kevin talks about the difference between guilt and shame.

[19:07] How to turn your addiction into a gift.

[21.30] Tara explains what replacing an addiction really looks like.

[23:48] The reward in addiction is instantaneous, that is why recovery is a rough journey.

[29:48] It is hard to allow yourself to feel connected.

[30:26] What was the connection piece like for Kevin meeting his partner Jenny?

[32:43] How can a son or daughter come out to their parents about their addiction? Find a safe place.

[38:14] You can have your feelings and opinions; you don’t have to hold them back.

[40:52] A good counseling session needs to feel like a safe place where you are accepted.

[41:52] Kevin talks about his role as a parent.

[43:50] Kevin shares his therapeutic journey.

[47:33] Kevin speaks on the different therapeutic approaches for recovery available.

[49:08] What is the biggest difference between Kevin’s internal world 20 years ago vs. now?

[51:00] Where does the “monster” message come from?

[55:14] Kevin shares the role families play in shaping how children look at themselves and the world around them.

[1:00:13] Kevin talks about the benefits and possibilities with Neurofeedback.

 

Mentioned in this episode:

Hedman Wellness

Examine Your Hedman Podcast

Visit Examine Your Hedman

 

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Eating in the Light of the Moon: How Women Can Transform Their Relationship with Food Through Myths, Metaphors, and Storytelling, Anita A. Johnston Ph.D.

Johann Hari’s Ted Talk: “Everything you think you know about addiction is wrong”

The Me You Can’t See, Oprah Winfrey, Harry Windsor

Sojourn Counseling Center

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This podcast is not a substitute for a therapeutic relationship with a mental health professional